{"id":1565,"date":"2009-05-24T09:38:26","date_gmt":"2009-05-24T15:38:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/eaf.net\/mvp\/?p=1565"},"modified":"2014-09-12T22:06:09","modified_gmt":"2014-09-13T05:06:09","slug":"picked-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2009\/picked-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Picked On?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Everyone has felt picked on. (I assume that to be a reasonably accurate statement, don’t you?)<\/p>\n

Too easily and too often, though, we feel picked on when we shouldn’t<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

So, in the interest of clarifying that statement (as well as in the interest of helping you not feel picked on when you shouldn’t), I offer up four measuring sticks to answer this question:<\/p>\n

Are “they” picking on you?<\/b><\/p>\n

    \n
  1. If they are just fault-finding, yes.<\/li>\n
  2. If they are sincerely concerned about you, no.<\/li>\n
  3. If they want to know your view instead of assuming to know it, no.<\/li>\n
  4. If they want you to tell them more about The Issue in order to balance their own views, no<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Does that makes sense to you like it does to me?<\/p>\n

    But what if you truly are being picked on?<\/p>\n

    What are godly responses to being picked on?<\/b><\/p>\n

      \n
    1. Pray blessing on them.<\/li>\n
    2. Be open to what might apply to you anyway.<\/li>\n
    3. Forgive them.<\/li>\n
    4. Look for the opportunities to love them.<\/li>\n
    5. Reject anger, bitterness, self-pity, vengefulness, and further fault-finding.<\/li>\n
    6. Don’t gossip or resort to evil speaking of them.<\/li>\n
    7. Remember:<\/b> Any “lumps” you get actually are less than you deserve.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      Not necessarily! Four measuring sticks to answer the question…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[4,12,534],"tags":[894,880,800],"class_list":["post-1565","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-christianity-101","category-lessons-for-living","category-todays-thought","tag-inspirational","tag-life-lessons","tag-relationships"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/prJUJ-pf","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1565","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1565"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1565\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1565"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1565"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1565"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}