{"id":2963,"date":"2014-04-27T08:42:17","date_gmt":"2014-04-27T15:42:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/?p=2963"},"modified":"2014-04-27T08:47:06","modified_gmt":"2014-04-27T15:47:06","slug":"how-to-alienate-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2014\/how-to-alienate-children\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Alienate Children and Influence Generations"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/mvp\/wp-content\/angry-child-phoning-parent.jpg\" alt=\"angry or sad child while mom is on cell phone\" style=\"width:373px; height:256px\" class=\"aligncenter\" title=\"Tune in to your child, Mom!\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Have you ever watched families at a fast food joint? Some folks from Boston Medical Center got curious about such social events. We&#8217;ve got a problem, Houson.<\/p>\n<p>Before illuminating the problem, though, <strong>I offer you an attainable solution<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/mvp\/wp-content\/happy-extended-family-at-mealtime.jpg\" alt=\"happy family with no electronic toys or mobile devices at mealtime\" style=\"width:492px; height:211\" class=\"aligncenter\" title=\"Try no mobile devices at mealtimes!\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Parents, put down your electronics and <strong>take up your own flesh and blood!<\/strong> Disconnect from you mobile devices and connect with your children.<\/p>\n<ul style=\"margin-top:-1.2em\">\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2012\/passive-parenting-benign-neglect\/\" title=\"Do not be passive and neglectful in your child care and training!\">Reject passive parenting and benign neglect<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/writings\/kidworth.html\" title=\"Seeing Your Child's Worth | Mark Roth | Anabaptists\">Treasure your children!<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2011\/looking-in-on-parents\/\" title=\"Looking In on Parents | Mark Roth | Ain't Complicated\">Be less self-absorbed, less self-centered.<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Invest yourself in your children, unselfishly.<\/li>\n<li>Get a loving, shepherd heart.<\/li>\n<li>Play with each child at least 20 minutes. Daily. Enjoyably. Game of his choice.<\/li>\n<li>Read a book to your children. Daily. Expressively.<\/li>\n<li>Ban all electronics at meal times.<\/li>\n<li>Eat together. Really. Truly. Together.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>That&#8217;s my short response to this unscientific-but-telling study: <!--more--><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Researchers at the Boston Medical Center observed 55 different groups of parents and young children eating at fast food restaurants. The study found the majority pulled out their mobile devices right away, and, in turn, their kids tended to act up more.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s just normal childhood behavior,&#8221; said parenting coach Toni Schutta. &#8220;If I can&#8217;t get your attention in a positive way, I&#8217;m going seek it in a negative way.&#8221; [&#8230;]<\/p>\n<p>Schutta says parents spend, on average, 11 hours a day using electronic devices. All that time takes away from face to face communication, which helps kids learn behavior.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Kids in preschool and kindergarten are no longer as able to read social cues from other human beings,&#8221; Schutta said. &#8220;That&#8217;s in part because of their own media use and it&#8217;s in part because of their parents&#8217; media use, they&#8217;re just not getting that training.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Too much time on technology can also leave an emotional impact on your child, if you&#8217;re missing life moments for email.<\/p>\n<p class=\"alignrightsmall\"><a href='http:\/\/minnesota.cbslocal.com\/2014\/04\/21\/put-down-the-phone-parents-it-could-be-affecting-your-kids\/'>Put Down The Phone, Parents; It Could Be Affecting Your Kids<\/a><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Ya think?! \ud83d\ude44<\/p>\n<p>This 11 hours a day stuff &#8212; is it <strong>further proof that big babies<\/strong> are having little babies? Where are the grown-ups?! Oh, wait&#8230;never mind. \ud83d\ude41<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-content\/from-misfits-to-well-adjusted.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/mvp\/wp-content\/from-misfits-to-well-adjusted.jpg\" alt=\"changing standards: misfits now rank as well-adjusted later\" style=\"width:300px; height:225px\" class=\"alignright\" title=\"When things worsen, the unit of measure shifts for the worse.\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Well, consider some points I extracted from the <a href=\"http:\/\/pediatrics.aappublications.org\/content\/early\/2014\/03\/05\/peds.2013-3703.full.pdf+html\" title=\"Caregivers, Mobile Devices, and Children\">study<\/a> itself:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Child response to caregiver<\/strong> use ranged from entertaining themselves to escalating bids for attention.<\/li>\n<li>Highly absorbed caregivers often <strong>responded harshly<\/strong> to child misbehavior.<\/li>\n<li>Meals are a daily routine in which face-to-face <strong>caregiver\u2013child interactions are considered beneficial<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li>Many caregivers used the device <strong>almost continuously<\/strong> through-out the meal.<\/li>\n<li>Many children started to exhibit <strong>limit-testing or provocative behaviors<\/strong> during adult device absorption.<\/li>\n<li>Some children <strong>appeared to accept<\/strong> the lack of engagement and entertained themselves, whereas others showed <strong>increasing bids for attention<\/strong> that were often answered with negative parent responses.<\/li>\n<li>What are the <strong>longer-term effects<\/strong> of frequent exposure to others&#8217; &#8220;present absence&#8221;?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I fear that in another fifteen years, <strong>today&#8217;s generation of misfits will seem unbelievably mature<\/strong>, well-adjusted, and competent. <em>Without having changed!<\/em><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align:center; text-shadow: 0 0 10px red\">Keying Parents = Keyed Up Children<\/h3>\n<div style=\"font-size:80%; width:310px; border:1px solid black; padding:10px 0 10px 10px; background-color:#eeeeee\" class=\"aligncenter\">\n<em>Suggested reading:<\/em><br \/>\n<span style=\"padding-left:15px\">&raquo; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.clp.org\/product\/practical_pointers_for_training_your_child_436?a=ANABOOOR0\" title=\"Practical Pointers for Training Your Child | Christian Light Publications\">Practical Pointers for Training Your Child<\/a><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"padding-left:15px\">&raquo; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Child-Training-Joseph-Stoll\/dp\/B0007ALUCA?tag=markroth-ac-20\" title=\"Child Training | Joseph Stoll | Amazon\">Child Training<\/a><\/span>\n<\/div>\n<h3>Parents and other caregivers had better get a loving, shepherd heart.<\/h3>\n<p><strong style=\"color:green; background-color:#cce6cc\">Can <em>you<\/em> tell us how to find such a thing?<\/strong> And while you&#8217;re at it, offer us a ray or two of hope!<\/p>\n<p>Oh, and after you do that, I invite your attention to:<\/p>\n<ul style=\"margin-top:-1.2em\">\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2011\/abandoned-children-of-christians\/\" title=\"Abandoned Children of Christians\">Abandoned Children (of Christians)<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2012\/sunshine-dad\/\" title=\"Sunshine Dad\">Sunshine Dad<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/2013\/how-to-ensure-a-fathers-success\/\" title=\"How to Ensure a Father's Success | Mark Roth\">How to Ensure a Father&#8217;s Success<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Parents pigging out at the mobile trough get my goat!<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[389,12,20],"tags":[428,547,949],"class_list":["post-2963","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-children","category-lessons-for-living","category-youve-been-warned","tag-cell-phone","tag-parenting","tag-social-media"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/prJUJ-LN","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2963","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2963"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2963\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2963"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2963"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/mvp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2963"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}