{"id":2196,"date":"2018-01-19T07:34:42","date_gmt":"2018-01-19T15:34:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/?p=2196"},"modified":"2018-01-19T07:34:42","modified_gmt":"2018-01-19T15:34:42","slug":"how-often-should-i-forgive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/2018\/how-often-should-i-forgive\/","title":{"rendered":"How Often Should I Forgive?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"lectura\" style=\"width:250px\">Reading:<\/p>\n<h3>Matthew 18:21-35<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<p>Jesus had said some things about confrontation, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Peter had a practical question about forgiveness. He even had what he seemed to think was a generous potential answer. <!--more--><\/p>\n<div class=\"passage\">\n<ol start=\"21\">\n<li>Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?<\/li>\n<li>Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.<\/li>\n<li>Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants.<\/li>\n<li>And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents.<\/li>\n<li>But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made.<\/li>\n<li>The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.<\/li>\n<li>Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt.<\/li>\n<li>But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.<\/li>\n<li>And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.<\/li>\n<li>And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.<\/li>\n<li>So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.<\/li>\n<li>Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me:<\/li>\n<li>Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?<\/li>\n<li>And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.<\/li>\n<li>So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div>\n<p>As you will see at the end of this post, I&#8217;ve had a lot to say about this in the past. Here are some things I noted this morning&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>The evil servant (aka, Servant A) found himself condemned and judged by his own words:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;You better pay me all!&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;No compassion or mercy for you &#8212; off to prison until you pay me all!&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Tough guy.<\/p>\n<p>Right after he hadn&#8217;t been so tough.<\/p>\n<p>He asked for patience, for time to pay all. He received mercy as well as forgiveness of all. But I don&#8217;t recall thinking about this in verse 32 til this morning: He had actually desired to be forgiven all that debt. Thus, his master responded to more than just his words; he responded to the unspoken desire of his heart. I need much sharper sensitivity and discernment in my relationships with those who wrong me!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion.jpg\" alt=\"...have had compassion...even as I had pity? (Matthew 18:33)\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-2200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion-150x113.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-content\/uploads\/have-had-compassion-668x501.jpg 668w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The &#8220;magical&#8221; words that worked <em>for<\/em> Servant A did not work <em>on<\/em> Servant A. When he uttered them to his master, his master forgave him. Alas, when his fellow servant uttered them to him, he refused to forgive his fellow servant.<\/p>\n<p>Forgiveness in human relationships is both seed and fruit in my relationship with God. Here&#8217;s what I mean:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Seed: Jesus said when I forgive others, I will be forgiven.<\/li>\n<li>Fruit: God also says I should forgive others because He has forgiven me.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Another way to state the same truth: Forgiveness in human relationships is both cause and effect in my relationship with God.<\/p>\n<p>We could say the same about unforgiveness. If I withhold forgiveness from someone, and I won&#8217;t be able to find it when I need it.<\/p>\n<p>The judgment or mercy I impose on others becomes the judgment or mercy imposed on me.<\/p>\n<p>The mercy I receive must become the mercy I extend to others. The judgment I want must be the judgment I extend.<\/p>\n<p>When I wrong someone, I must plainly and directly ask for forgiveness: &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry I&#8230;&#8221; or &#8220;Please forgive me for&#8230;&#8221; or even &#8220;My apologies for&#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And when someone apologizes to me, asking for my forgiveness, I must accept the apology and extend my forgiveness, clearly and directly. Simply saying &#8220;No problem&#8230;&#8221; or &#8220;Don&#8217;t worry about it&#8230;&#8221; may have a forgiving spirit behind it, but it does not plainly communicate an explicit forgiveness.<\/p>\n<p>Well, I could go on and on. This subject generally and this passage specifically is so big. Here you have more of what I have written in the past:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/8-110.html\">The Crisis of Forgiveness<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/8-305.html\">Jesus Teaches Forgiveness<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/2014\/pass-over-that-transgression\/\">Pass Over That Transgression!<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/4-398.html\">Job&#8217;s Encounter With God<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/12-396.html\">Repentance and Confession<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/9-407.html\">Learning to Forgive<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/2014\/making-peace-with-meekness-and-forgiveness\/\">Making Peace With Meekness and Forgiveness<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/6-304.html\">The Defenseless Life<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/12-101.html\">Jesus&#8217; Supreme Sacrifice<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.anabaptists.org\/clp\/youth\/2-296.html\">Forgiveness<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In closing, two renditions of The Lord&#8217;s Prayer:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em class=\"bible\">&#8220;And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors&#8221;<\/em> (Matthew 6:12).<\/li>\n<li><em class=\"bible\">&#8220;And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us&#8221;<\/em> (Luke 11:4).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I&#8217;m sure you have some <em>Food for Thought<\/em> morsels on the matter. <strong>Please share them with the rest of us in a comment below!<\/strong> <span class=\"light\">Post disclaimer: I <em>know<\/em> there&#8217;s far more breadth and depth and height to forgiveness in my relationship with God; this isn&#8217;t intended as a fully developed dissertation on the matter.)<\/span><\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It depends on whether I ever need forgiveness.<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[12],"tags":[103,44,99,106,60,31],"class_list":{"0":"post-2196","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-matthew","7":"tag-humility","8":"tag-live-right","9":"tag-relationships","10":"tag-sunday-school","11":"tag-warning","12":"tag-way-of-righteousness","13":"h-entry","14":"hentry","15":"h-as-article"},"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/prJBV-zq","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2196","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2196"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2196\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2196"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2196"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eaf.net\/pantinghart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2196"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}